Thursday, September 30, 2021

Rendezvous. Dysfunction.

Last week Tuesday a little after 11:00 pm we were shuttin' 'er down for bed time.  There was a puddle of blood on the living room floor.  I immediately thought of Black Bean who had seemed quieter that evening.  Jared held him and I inspected.  He had an ugly, irregular gash under his jaw.  It looked nasty, but not life threatening.  Thankfully Laurel had gone to bed early so Jared would only have to get the older two to bed.  I bid everyone goodnight and started calling emergency vets.  (I feel very anxious about making "business" phone calls and put them off for weeks or months, but when there is a true emergency, I am overtaken by calm and clarity and can do all the hard things.)  The third place I called, in waaay north Seattle, had an opening... with a proposed 3 hour wait upon arrival.  So off the little patient and I went, arriving a bit after midnight.  Ahead of schedule they got him cleaned up and thoroughly antibiotic-ed so we wouldn't have to medicate him at home, while I alternately watched the goings on the street from my car, read a chapter or two of The Education of Little Tree (an incredible first-person account I highly recommend) and paced in place on the sidewalk looking somewhat mentally unstable.  When we got home a little after 2 am, and I hopped online to order him a soft collar for protecting the injury, as per instructed, for same-day delivery.  




Speaking of hospital, my violin had returned from hospital in way north Seattle just the day before for a cracked top - surprisingly, my own fault. I dropped a metronome in a lesson. Rafael Carrabba and our instrument insurance took care of it beautifully.  While he was at it, this magician of a Luthier did some other long-needed adjustments to the instrument, and it sounds and feels distinctly different.  

(There still appears to be rice inside from my lemon-water-dumped-on-the-violin-in-a-lesson of more than a decade ago.  I dropped in dry rice to absorb the moisture, and I keep finding more kernels over the years.  But they had stopped coming loose, and I thought that was the end of it.  Apparently not.)


We had our last camping trip of the season (unless we can squeeze in one more?) scheduled for the Friday.  As my eldest was feeling strongly demand avoidant of the idea, I tentatively asked Jeff and Linda if they wanted to join us, since I knew that would change the narrative for her.  They thought they might come, which made what seemed an impossible endeavor seem more tenable.  

Thursday evening, as Jared was teaching another hour and a half after I had finished with my students, I cleaned out the car (it was bad!) and even vacuumed a bit with our new, functional machine, then piled all our camping gear and luggage up.  I planned to let Jared do the loading, as his Tetris skills are far superior.  

I had wanted to visit the Ginko Petrified Forest east of Ellensburg, but the camping was all reserved, so we headed out to another new-to-us spot: Staircase at Olympic NP, which has a first-come first-serve campground with running water during the non-winter months, and happens to be the closest ONP spot to our house.

Friday morning I had Anne up early for her annual doctor's appointment while Jared loaded the car.  We managed to leave home well before noon. Poor Anne was off kilter for the rest of the day on account of reduced sleep and having taken her flu shot, but I am happy to report that despite all the difficulties that caused for her, we all made it to bedtime in the national park without any major injuries or property damage.

To get there, we mercifully exited I-5 in Tacoma and headed west on various smaller highways, skirting around the south end of the Hood Canal, and approaching Staircase on a 25 mph dirt road in the Olympic National Forest.  That road follows the edge of Lake Cushman, a section of the wild Skokomish River dammed by Tacoma Power.  At the NP boundary the lake stops and the river runs freely through a wide, twisted rocky bed at the bottom of a valley.  Also, the road narrows to a lane-and-a-half and is paved again, with a 15 mph limit.  

When we reached this section, there was a lot of continued unhappiness in the back seat which required continued adult aural and emotional presence.  And the road was much smoother.  And I sort of missed the 15 mph sign.  And I had a park ranger following me.  And he pulled me over.  I apologized for speeding.  He asked for the usual license, registration, and proof of insurance.  License was easy.  Then we opened the glove box, which was a riot or random papers... We managed to find a decade's worth of expired annual registrations, as well as a current registration paper for the wrong vehicle.  We also found most of a decade's worth of twice-a-year insurance cards, but weirdly nothing recent.  We know that we have recently payed our insurance, and kept our registrations up to date.  The ranger gave us his cell phone number and said if we could text him the current papers by that night, he'd let me off with a warning.  Jared, mercifully spoke up saying that we were not expecting to have any cell phone coverage until Monday.  Fellow said he'd give me until Tuesday morning to send him the documents.

Anyway, we found a lovely campsite with an old-growth tree and just enough flat space for our tent. 




 After setting up, we spent the rest of the daylight hours variously hiking some of the nearby trails and playing by the river, while fielding myriad questions from Anne about when Jeff and Linda would be arriving.








After cooking and eating dinner, washing dishes, brushing teeth, and searching the campground for Jeff and Linda's car, all in the dark, we mercifully all fell asleep early in our sleeping bags.  (Except I forgot Lazarus' sleeping bag at home, as he uses it in his bed and was still asleep when Jared was loading the car.  So Laurel slept in a pile of our winter coats and Lazarus took Laurel's bag.  Fortunately this was decided upon without much of a fight at all.)  

Lazarus was up and down several times in the night, keeping his night-guardian (Jared) quite busy.  And when he woke up in the morning, he said he didn't feel well and kept himself curled up in a ball at the picnic table for several hours.  Anne popped up and asked where Jeff and Linda were, and we spent quite a bit of time rehearsing all the reasons they may not have been able to come (cat sick?  flat tire?  forgot they had to play music for church?  too tired?  couldn't get a cat sitter?) but we did a thorough search of the campground in case they had arrived late at night.  Late morning, she came close to accepting they were not there.  Lazarus stayed at the table, as previously mentioned, and the others of us took turns hiking/running/wandering.  

By the late 1:00's he was stabilized, so, despite Anne's sudden desire to spend all day at the campsite, we headed off just around 2:00 to nearby Mt. Ellinor, which I had seen in the guidebook and really wanted to summit.  Although it was quite close as the crow flies, we spent a long time driving on the gravel road, aforementioned, plus another, and another, to reach the upper trail head from the completely opposite cardinal direction.

{Unbeknownst to us Jeff and Linda arrived at our campsite maybe 20 minutes after we left it.}

When we arrived at the trail head, we had cell reception, and I had a message from Jeff saying they thought they would drive over after church and wanted to meet up.  I couldn't say for sure, but estimated that this text had been sent seven hours prior.  So we talked out loud with Anne about how it was likely they were not coming, due to the fact that they had not heard back from us.  Or maybe they had set up at the campsite and we would see them when we returned.  Without much hope, I texted them our location and the details of our activities between then and dark.

Jared hung out with the kids while I hike the 3.4 mile round trip.  There were naps, snacks, audio books, short hikes, art projects near the car for all of them.  The trail was only 3.4 miles round trip, yes, but it also advertised intense elevation gain.  It took me around three hours, and I could still feel my calves five days later.  The hiking guide rated it a 4 out of 5 for difficulty.  Without a doubt, it was one of the most scenic hikes of my life, and I can't wait to do it again.  My photos do not begin to do it justice.  It went through forest and out onto a boulder field.  





I saw four of Washington's active stratovolcanoes plus one or two in British Columbia, the Hood Canal, Seattle and Tacoma, the Skokomish River (sadly not Mt. Hood, due to haze in that direction), and over the back side, the entire crenellated Olympic mountain range marching off toward the sinking sun, with rocky peaks and glaciers, and forested hills.  
Mt. Rainier, elev. 14,411


Mt

Hazy... on the left Mt. Adams, elev. 12,281... on the right Mt. St. Helens, elev. 8363







There was, right below me, an inaccessible high valley with a small lake untouched by humans, and snow fields still standing in the late September shadows.  





There were also views of an incredible number of clear cuts, mowed down in violent rectangles, and when the sun hit Lake Cushman just right, I could see the original, natural rocky river bed winding through the deeps, with the steep valley walls and forests submerged.  





When I got back down to the car, it was only an hour til sunset, but I encouraged Jared to go up anyway, and he did probably the lower third or half, which was still plenty for incredible views.  I assisted with more snacks, and we listened to more of the current audiobook, which is the biography of Quaker Elizabeth Friedman, one of the pioneering codebreakers for the FBI, etc.  She and her Jewish husband were a team, and got their start during WW I.

Afterward we careened through the gravel roads in the dark to our campsite to cook dinner, etc.  There was more talk of finding Jeff and Linda there.  And when we arrived, they had left a clue.  There were a couple of Anne's possessions, left at their house, newly stowed in our tent.  Anne's name, spelled in pinecones, lay three-dimensional, on the table.  While Jared cooked dinner, the kids and I eagerly scoured every bit of the campground with a flashlight looking for their car.  It was not there.  They had come and gone.  Great disappointment again.

{But they escaped being exposed to the crud!}

The night was rough.  Both Lazarus and Laurel were up and down with fevers, and the coat pile Laurel was sleeping in got *mysteriously* soaked from the inside, rendering it unusable.  I changed her in the dark and stuffed her into my sleeping back on top of me.  We had two sick little kids, and their designated night guardians got less sleep than ideal.  In the morning we wandered around more on nearby trails (Laurel rode on my back, stating "I don't feel very good today."  Lazarus walked slowly and rested on logs - not his usual high energy self.)  







We packed up as the rain started, and stopped for a picnic by Lake Cushman as the rain really started. 





 ....And headed home.  

Once arrived, I attempted a small nap (Jared had attempted one in the car) and tried to track down the possibility of rapid covid testing for Lazarus, as he was slated for his well child check the following morning.  Nothing was available on a Sunday.  I did mount another irksome project as well.  I cleaned out the glove compartments of both cars, tossing years worth of car registrations and insurance cards and fliers from meetings we'd been to in Ohio and a hotel receipt from Wyoming dating to 2012...  I found that the Honda registration was in the Chevy, and the Chevy registration was in the Honda - an easy switch.  But NO recent insurance cards.  I went online to print some off, and discovered that I had never changed our address with the insurance company when we moved close to four years ago.  When I updated our information, it turns out our rate went down noticeably, and I wished I would have done that a long time ago!  I got the documents texted off to the park ranger who let me off the hook for a ticket - hallelujah!  The cars became legal again.  AND I processed a year's worth of junk/business mail that were still unopened.  I really have trouble keeping up with that stuff.

Monday morning I tried several times to call the doctor's office from both my phone and Jared's phone to find out if they wanted Lazarus to come in or stay home, and for some reason I could not dial out on either line.  So we drove over and I left him in the parking spot right outside the lobby while I went in,  masked, past the large signs asking you NOT to enter if you had any symptoms.  I asked the receptionist whether I should bring Lazarus in or if we should reschedule.  She was very grateful I had not brought him in and  said she would go back to talk with the medical assistant.  I walked back out to Lazarus.  In the four minutes I had been inside, someone had already reported an unattended child to the office, and someone was coming to reprimand me for leaving him and saying that they had to report all unattended children to management, yada yada...  Fortunately, they let me stay in the car with him and came out to me as they went back and forth talking to various people until they decided that they would like to see him for his appointment as his symptoms were indicative of a cold, not covid.

We moved all our teaching online for the day (which eventually became the whole week).  And late in the day, Jared and I came down with sore throats.

Tuesday morning we got the kids up for their dentist appointments, but then thought better of it and they rescheduled us for two weeks out.  The anticipation followed by the reschedule was very stressful for Anne, and she needed some adult ears for long chunks of time to help her process the frustration of her schedule being changed without her input on multiple occasions throughout the day.  As part of that, she decided she absolutely would not be going to Tae Kwon Do.  Jared was quite poorly on Tuesday, such that he actually took a nap before he taught.  (My illness has been quite mild, only a minor irritation.  Laurel has been feeling quite fragile and weepy, but Lazarus is pretty much back to normal.)

Wednesday Anne, who thus far had been quite fine, woke up the sickest of the whole crew.  Poor, poor girl.


Tuesday, September 14, 2021

Back in the Saddle

The Tuesday after Labor Day was our first day "back to school", and it also happened to be Lazarus' birthday.  The photos represent the pinterest version of the past week.  The words tell more of the story.

It was a hard week.  Starting a new routine involves keeping track of lots of details and feeling stressed.  Starting the new fall routine, in general, feels like stepping into compression socks, after a summer of going blissfully barefoot. The creeping dark changes my playgrounding/walking routine, and leaves fewer options open.  Anne started some new activities this week, which she loves.  The drop offs and pick ups had to be factored in, too.  (I started writing out my list of things that had to be done before I teach the following day and tucking them into my tea box so I see if first thing in the morning.) We had some big schedule evolution happening during the actual first week, and there were some concerns with a student's parent which left me walking circles next to the kids on the playground, flapping my arms and trying to hold it together while Anne informed me people were looking at me and I didn't care.  To top it off, I took on a project over the weekend, in which I took 20 years of executive dysfunction regarding our sheet music library, and with the help of Anita to get started, spent 15 hours turning an absolute disaster into labeled and alphabetized stacks.  The result is great.  The process was fine, but I felt like I needed a weekend after my weekend.  It is amazing how many unneeded duplicates of music I found.  My give-away stack is 18 inches thick!  But now if I need to find Dont Etudes or the Mendelssohn Quintet or some viola duets or the Gauldin theory textbook or the violin part for Brahms 2, I know PRECISELY where to look, and I won't have to give up in disgust after 20 minutes of huffing and puffing and crashing around.

Photos Part 1: The Zoom birthday party the day before the actual birthday...

Please note that the balloons are in rainbow order.  I have had a life-long obsession with putting things in that order.

Lately Lazarus has been telling me his favorite color is pink, so I put in some pink cosmos from the yard.  Also, the berries are from the Asian dogwood growing in our neighbors yard, and I learned this week they are edible.

The abacus of my childhood piano practice, in which the beads are NOT in rainbow order.  But I put five counters off to the side in honor of the 5th birthday.

Examining the gifts...

Ooops, one auntie stepped offscreen just as I took the photo, but this is how we party!

He decorated his bed with new stickers.



Photos, Part 2: The birthday cake on the actual birthday...

When circumstances have permitted, I have always parsed up a bag of M&Ms into rainbow order, creating a sort of graph, and then eaten them in spiraling order while lamenting that there are uneven numbers of each color, and particularly being annoyed in the era when they did not make reds but rather two shades of brown.  I got to use those otherwise useless graphing skills on the cake, as he requested a chocolate cake with chocolate frosting and candy on top.

He does not like the birthday song being sung.

Blowing out the candles

Now I get to eat it!

Playing with some of his gifts

Photos, Part 3: The aftermath of the music library project.  (I actually do like organizing, but I have a hard time getting over the hurdle of starting, making hard decisions mid-stream, and working around interruptions.)

Jared put up this new shelf in our large studio.  You can see the giant stack of duplicates to give away on top of the piano on the right.

The shelf in our dining/laundry/utility/mudroom/kitchen annex

The shelf on the opposite side of the room divider







Monday, September 6, 2021

Long-Expected/Unexpected

Emily and Morgan came to visit us for one glorious week.  They took the kids to the playground and the zoo.  They helped me clean out and organize my horrible shed from start to finish with unbelievable efficiency.  Even though items are now neatly arranged on shelves around the perimeter, I still have the habit of pushing the door open with suddenness and force in hopes of it obliterating the path of junk in its path. Truly astounding what they can accomplish. We all went together to the beach at Dash Point.  A lovely warm day to wade!  And we all went together on a little hike at Deception Crags, Anne's favorite spot where people climb the cliffs.  That was the only place I managed to take any pictures. (Although, much of what made the visit wonderful would be hard to capture photographically anyway.)  Emily and Morgan stayed home with the kids while Jared and I hiked up to nearby Wilderness Peak.  [Note: if you have the same edition of the Cascades hiking guide I do, do NOT continue on down the path after you reach the summit.  The trail is massively overgrown in the process of returning to its natural state, and you will learn just how many spiders are in the forest, which you may have been blissfully unaware of if you have not done field work...  Instead, back track to the other trail 0.1 miles back and descend that way.]  It was the first time, due to covid, that we have gotten to see any Texas family in almost two years.  Anne had a great time and was busy orchestrating things for them to do with her.  Lazarus was skeptical of the auntie invasion, but he did voluntarily ask to be pushed in the swings by them.  Laurel chatted non-stop except for when she fell asleep on the zoo trip.  We are eagerly awaiting the arrival of kid vaccinations so we can see everyone else!



This weekend, we went on our fourth camping trip of the season.  We had been discussing the possibility for weeks, but, as it typical, were unable to determine the precise details of location and days of cat care until the night before.  Anne missed all the preliminary discussion, it seems, and informed us she was NOT going, as she felt it had been sprung on her.  We talked through the options and negotiated and reasoned.  Eventually I shot off a message to Jeffrey and Linda, who on ten minutes notice, offered to have her stay with them for the weekend.  In the end, this really was the best solution for all concerned, as there were more unforeseen bits of the trip which would have made it very hard for Anne.  She had a great time doing all the fun stuff without us, and we had a great time doing all the fun stuff without her.  

We got the absolute last spot available at Fairholme on Thursday evening on the west end of Lake Crescent, for which we were very grateful.  


It was fascinating to look at the lake each day and see the changes...











Look at the sparkling clarity of the water!  There were also some small green algae creating magical green clouds, but their portraits did not come out well due to small surface ripples...

The first unexpected bit was Anne staying behind.  The second unexpected bit was that Lazarus woke up with a bad stomach Friday morning, and he spend the day until 3:00 or 4:00 slumped over a log at the campsite, semi-comatose.  The last time he had a stomach bug, I planted him in a sleeping bag under a tree in our yard until he stabilized, so this really wasn't much different.  By that time in the afternoon, whatever toxin was in his system was sufficiently gone, and he was cheerfully up and about.  So we went over to Rialto Beach on the Pacific Coast for the evening.  It was clear and there was almost no wind!








Saturday, our plan was to spend the day again at Rialto and hike the shore north to the Arch.  As we approached the coast, the rain started.  When we arrived, we sat in the car hemming and hawing.  But we put on our coats and decided to go for it, which was absolutely the best decision.  On the return hike, I said to Jared that you don't really feel alive until you are hiking in the chilly drizzle with the wind in your face, a toddler on your back, your bare feet in the sand, and the numbingly frigid Pacific waves lapping at your toes.  The tide was in so we had to take an overland route right at the Arch.  The folding of the exposed rock layers speaks to the power of colliding tectonic plates, and the tidepools were teeming with tiny life.










It was still raining when we were done with the hike, so we put the kids in dry clothes and loaded back into the car.  As we were approaching Fairholme, we decided to take off to the right and drive up some of the Sol Duc River Valley, which we have yet to explore.  There was a spot to hop out and look at the river.  The coho salmon who call the Sol Duc their nursery start returning here in the summer, unlike the salmon of all the other rivers who return in the fall.  The water is so clear and sparking (the name Sol Duc is a reference to that in the local language).






When we returned to the campsite, it was still raining, so the kids spent the evening in the tent drawing, writing, and painting.  Jared braved the rain to cook dinner, and we ate in the tent as well. 






It rained into the night, but when I got up in the wee hours to stretch a very sore leg (tricky, slippery, muddy descent on the hike with a toddler on my back), I could see some stars.  (The previous nights it had been clear enough to see untold numbers of stars and the close arm of the Milky Way.)  Even though the rain was over, the trees continued to drip for hours - the sounds of the moss-laden rain forest.





While Lazarus was convalescing, Jared and I took turns going out on small adventures with Laurel and reading aloud.  I read several excerpts to Jared from the book Gathering Moss by Robin Wall Kimmerer (both her books are incredible - I can't recommend them highly enough!!!!), and Laurel was listening carefully.  She had found some dry mosses and was pouring water on them to watch them rehydrate.  Also, I learned that there is no reason to remove moss from the asphalt shingles of our roof; there is no evidence to show that they are damaging.  However, they may have a cooling effect in the hot summer.  One more chore taken off the list, and one more point in thanks of Mother Nature.



On the way home Sunday, we stopped briefly at the rather disappointing Shine Tidelands State Park, which at high tide, consisted of a parking lot, two or three feet of beach, and some fishing boats next to the Hood Canal Bridge.  Not much room to play...  It seems to mostly be used for digging clams at low tide during clam season.


We also stopped to check out Scenic Beach State Park, which was, indeed scenic, although there was no beach to speak of, due to high tide.  But there was a playground.  And there was a replica of a 1936 cabin build by "Grampa Joe" at the age of 16.  The kids ran around plenty.